Gays Against Gay Marriage- the Voice You Haven’t Heard Yet


Yesterday, the voice of the LGBT was heard. I am usually quite estatic when the underdog comes up on top. I love it when God “lifts up the lowly” and “fills the hungry with good things.” However, in light of yesterday’s Supreme Court rulings, I discovered that there is an even more voiceless population of people that have been ignored throughout the course of the Gay Marriage debate- Gays against gay marriage. Their arguements are undeniably interesting because they are indeed quite the cultural paradox. Reminds me of Jesus.

Gay Pople Against Gay Marriage 


Doug Mainwaring

“I wholeheartedly support civil unions for gay and lesbian couples, but I am opposed to same-sex marriage. Because activists have made marriage, rather than civil unions, their goal, I am viewed by many as a self-loathing, traitorous gay. So be it. I prefer to think of myself as a reasoning, intellectually honest human being.”

Jean Marc

“They don’t speak for me. As a society we should not be encouraging this. It’s not biologically natural.”

Eve Tushnet

“I also have many friends who, like me, are trying to live in accordance with the historical Christian teaching on chastity, including its prohibition on sex between men or between women. We disagree (sometimes sharply) among ourselves on the best response to the growing cultural acceptance and political success of gay marriage; but before politics and even before culture, our response must be personal.”

Steve Gershom

Is it hard to be gay and Catholic? Yes, because like everybody, I sometimes want things that are not good for me. The Church doesn’t let me have those things, not because she’s mean, but because she’s a good mother.”


Straight People (Raised by Gay Parents) Against Gay Marriage

Robert Oscar Lopez

“Over the last year I’ve been in frequent contact with adults who were raised by parents in same-sex partnerships. They are terrified of speaking publicly about their feelings, so several have asked me (since I am already out of the closet, so to speak) to give voice to their concerns.”

Queer Kids of Queer Parents Against Gay Marriage


The Holy Grail of the Voiceless

Against Equality: Queer challenges to the Politics of Inclusion

(Seriously, you could spend three weeks being pleasently surprised by their logic over there)


Books on the Subject

Sexual Authenticity

What is Marriage: Man and Women, a Defense

The Courage to Be Chaste


The Redefinition of Marriage is still up for grabs. In order for us to be more keenly aware of the effects that changing said definition might incur, I believe it would be in our best interest to make sure EVERY voice is heard, not simply the loudest.

Special thanks to the We Defend Traditional Marriage- And We’re Gay Facebook page for your invaluable resources and respectful wit.

About TJ Burdick

TJ Burdick is the lead author of One Body, Many Blogs, Advice for Christian Bloggers. He is also a school teacher by trade, a lay Catholic by grace and a husband and father of two by vocation. He writes to help support Catholic charities and to put food on the table for his family as his teaching wages are very humble. When he is not enjoying time with his family, you can find him planning his next big lesson or locked inside an adoration chapel. You can find more of his work at @